Whenever you cross a road do you not look and make your own decision on whether or not it is safe to cross? Did I make the choice to develop cancer? When you are going about your daily lives you a certain amount of control over your own safety…when crossing a road, standing at a bus stop or driving your car. You can take extra care, look twice or avoid trouble spots. I was in London the other day with friends and when it came to crossing a road funnily enough a bus came speeding along so we stepped back and I actually put my hand on my friends arm to make sure she was out of harms way…it’s a natural instinct.
But when it comes to the ‘cancer bus’ no amount of being careful or a friends hand on my arm would have changed a thing. I had no control over what my own body did to me, how it turned against me, my own bone marrow. BONE MARROW FAILURE, yes 90% of it was not functioning and without healthy blood cells your body fails, yours organs fail…life fails. Not only that but these dangerous cancer cells were dispersed around my body via my bloodstream, normally a vital but, potentially spreading the cancer all over my body, using each and every vein to infect you.
When offering words of comfort to someone whose been diagnosed by cancer perhaps think carefully before saying ‘Of course any of us could be hit by a bus at any time.’ Don’t try to generalise it, to make it sound like it doesn’t matter, it was inevitable anyway and that being so makes it ok that you’ve been hit by a life threatening, life changing disease.
A generic rather than literal example of misfortune, verbal shorthand to indicate that none of us know our future, that a catastrophe is merely an involuntary act of fate. Casually used to refer to an unexpected death, illness, debilitating injury yet without making it seem grim.
According to Wikipedia it was first used in the novel ‘The Secret Agent’ by Joseph Conrad; “But just try to understand that it was a pure accident; as much as if he had been run over by a bus while crossing the street.”
This term is also used a lot in business management meaning that there must always be a contingency plan in case someone in the team is taken ill, leaves, etc unexpectedly. And the definition from the newly popular Urban Dictionary is ‘Used instead of the word Stupid’ For example; ‘OMG this mobile is so getting hit by a bus.’ when said mobile isn’t working properly.
Thanks for taking time out of your day to read this…love Butterfly